If you feel as though you’re ready for your partner to take your relationship to the next level and start looking for engagement rings, Angelic Diamonds encourages you to ask the following four questions to make him aware that you’re ready for him to pop the question:
Have you been honest?
You could save a lot of time if you choose to just sit down and have a conversation with your boyfriend about where you envision your relationship going. It needn’t be an awkward conversation; just discuss with your partner why you want to get married and he should soon start to understand just how much he means to you. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know that you want to be a part of it.
Are you the go-to guy for your boyfriend?
You should never get to the stage in your relationship where you and your other half have been assigned individual roles as a couple. If it has already developed to this point, it’s time that you become your other half’s go-to guy as well as girlfriend instead. If you’re constantly being left behind for the guys, then this is going to put a strain on his ability to propose and take you seriously.
Being a go-to guy is simple — take a more invested interest in his hobbies and passions, for example, or choose to exercise together whenever you can. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without you!
Have you tried to be cruel to be kind?
Being tough may be the wisest option to get your relationship moving towards the destination that you’d like. If you don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and things are flatlining, try and find his pulse again by telling him you may move out.
If this sounds like a step too far, then a gentler approach that still shows that you’re taking a stand is to start going out with friends more or changing careers without getting your boyfriend’s advice. Although he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him realise that he needs to put the effort in (by proposing!) so that he can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.
Can you spend more time with married couples?
There may be a chance that your partner is simply delaying getting engaged because he has become anxious or worried about married life. Try to resolve this by hanging around with friends who are happily married, as well as family members who also have children. This will make him realise that you’re comfortable with him being around others in more serious relationships.
You will very likely witness the ups and downs of married life as you spend your time socialising with couples who have already tied the knot. However, at the very least if should also get your boyfriend picturing a wonderful married life with you. Although men who have parents that are divorced sometimes struggle to trust this commitment, replacing negative feelings with positive ones in this type of environment may help to bring him around to your way of thinking.